Sunday, May 30, 2010

Single Serving Friend

The concept of the single serving friend was first introduced to me in the book Fight Club. I laughed and thought how clever. Unfortunately the sad realization about living overseas well in South Korea anyways... as an expat teacher is that most people you meet are just that.  I'm not sure if people figure " Hey I'm only going to be here a yr better not get to close" or they are just too lazy to form real friendships. Now don't get me wrong I've made a few good friends. Btu as for the countless expat teachers I've come across most leave me wanting. I've met lots of flakes, lots of immature women thinking they're "grown" because they live on the other side of the world, and a hell of a lot of  prentious globe trotters posing as teachers . I think those are the worst. Don't get me wrong I'm sure a number of us took these less than glamourous teaching positions to feed and fund out wanderlust. None of us woke up one morning and said oooh let's move to Korea I can make "man man won yall". But most, if not all have an itch  travel and living here allows us to do so. Now let me make something clear, you must at minimum possess a Bachelors' degree to teach here in any subject ( which by the way I think Koreans should change, because some people should not teach) But I digress, these pretentious globe trotters posing at teachers get under my skin. You meet them and at first your are deceived...they seem interesting , then they start in their diatribes about traveling, as if you don't even own a passport with stamps in it. I don't mind a good story,but talk to me NOT at me. And here's a hint try listening instead of just waiting your turn to speak. Ugh! Newsflash: We are both expats no need to give me the low down on living overseas or the ins and outs of South Korea.I'm pretty sure I live here too! Yes I've traveled around the world but you don't hear me pushing my experiences on others. If you ask I'll tell you.
Second on my list of most wanted obnoxious expats are the non-friend friends. Now I don't know what is socially accpetable because I am far from appropriate at times. I know some times we can be strapped for cash over here, but if it's someone's birthday it is bad form to show up to a social gather, or dinner party without a gift or a bottle of something and especially dont make the guest of honor pay for you or their own meal. That's just TACKY! These non-friend friends are the same ones posing in a million pics and shouting you out as their bestie on FB. Womp womp womp FAIL! I am sooo not impressed.
Lastly, are the single serving friends you could spend all weekend hanging out with, exchange phone numbers, text like crazy, take photobooth pics, have a Korean adventure, buy matching phone charms, have a couple nights of ridiculous drinking and dancing, maybe even plan a vacation together. If you think this makes you friends, I'm sorry to be the one to inform you ,but in dice.
You could see said "friend" out in Seoul a week or two later he or she may have quite possibly forgotten your and introduce him/herself to you again for the "first time". Now I know this seems crazy but I've seen it happen.
"Friends" like the ones mentioned above make me miss and cherish my friends stateside that much more!
I trudge on to hopefully come across a couple somewhat normal people in this crazy country to call me real friends. In the mean time in between time...
In the words of Edward Norton "Champagne for my real friends and real pain for my cham friends".

Confucius say:  In  South Korea if REAL friends are what you seek, you better get a Skype subscription because you're without a paddle up shit creek

New Resolve

I've been so busy living my life ...I haven't found the time between work, class, tutoring and living life to actually document it. My June resolution is to try and blog at least twice a week. the key word being "try".  Truly there are some very ridiculous things Iv'e been meaning to share with you all, but I write the ideas on a napkin or in a random notebook and say " I'll do it later" then later turns into " I'll do it next week", next week turns into  holy *&%# it's almost June and I haven't blogged since the end of April! I should be ashamed of myself.  Let me see if I can catch you up in 100 words or less:                                             Since April : My mom visited and that was the highlight of my Spring. We had an amazing time. Everyone at my school loved her and her "pashion". My mom grew to love Choco-cakes form Paris Baguette and Gimbap. We found my new favorite art studio together in Insadong, which I now frequent once a month to make some kind of pottery. We took ridiculous Korean photos and made so many memories. I never knew how Korean my mom really was until living here, she loves it! Even though I loved seeing her, her visit made me miss friends and loved ones that much more. I'm looking forward to Ty's visit in the Fall.                                                              I bought a sweet ride! A lime green vintage inspired bike on which I plan to get " 처 는 후 스 르 아 라 요 ? 트 흐그? " I'm a hoostla,you know a tug?"                                                                                  Courtesy of Korean"tugs" everywhere !                                         Let's see... Oh I've accquired a new member to my Korean family her name is "Soo Bin" ( pronounced Sue Bean) she is a cute little pup who's butt I have to beat on the regular for peeing on the floor. Thank goodness for linoleum. Any potting training tips are much welcomed.:)
Oh I had three root canals and I was in bed for a week with a terrible inflammed lower vertebrae. That was NO BUENO! But I'm feeling much better now...just waiting for my new bed!
Korean class is coming along. I'm actually starting to understand what they are saying at teacher meetings instead of looking lost. Thnaks Eun Jung sonsangnim!
Right now I'm planning my summer vacation with Kate. I'm super pumped. Indonesia and Singapore, possibly Malaysia if we have time. I am going to travel below the equator. Ahhhhh! I've only ever dreamed of experiences like this... now I'm living them.
I cant believe it's about to be summer. The months fly by so fast. Before you know it I will be at my year mark! Ok well now that you're up to speed I don't know if  I didnt that in less than 100 words but you know me... I'm long winded.
So from now on be on the look out for more blogs on a regular basis. And more ridiculous stories from South Korea 찰 가!

티 파 니 <3